Relationships: With An Independent Woman.

HAHA. This will be a fave of mine because it is actually me all over. I thought i'd do a spin off on my relationships topic and do a side story. Relationships Part 2 will appear next week but for now enjoy this

Independent Woman: “A woman who pays her own bills, buys her own things, and does not allow a man to affect her stability or self-confidence. She supports herself entirely on her own and is proud to be able to do so."

What does an independent woman mean to you? is it confidence or intelligence? have a little think about it because it has different definitions to different people. However this blog post is aimed directly at those independent women who are the needs of our men. But if i'm honest boys you'll probably learn a little something.

Independent women are probably the best and the worst females to have as a partner. She's the best because she knows what she's doing, she's able to survive on her own and is intelligent. She's the worst because she wont let you do anything aha! you'll literally have to force her to allow you to do things for her LOL and that I know from experience.

This one time, me and my partner we going out for a fancy meal, I'm all dressed up, so is he and we wanted to be big and bossy and roll up in the UberLUX extra extra money for the actual £5 journey. Anyway the Uber turns up now, we go downstairs and this boy is standing in my way. I'm trying to get to the door and open it, he's waving and pushing my hand away these times all i wanna do is open the door. I force my hand to the door hand and he boxes it away again. However this time i'm vex your in my personal space, boxing my hand left right and centre, my belly is rumbling I aint got time for games. So i said to him "what the f#ck are you doing?" he said "I'm trying to open the door for my queen.' i kissed my teeth and replied "Well this queen can open her own damn door." i pushed him out the way and opened the door. Now he's upset because he wanted to treat me like a lady and be a gentleman and i'm standing there like 'Move, i can do it myself.'

Now typically that's something i'll do all the time with a lot of things, I don't even let him buy me a 50p sweet without kicking up a fuss. Slowly i'm learning to take a back seat. Honestly how many of you can actuallyrelate? How many of you reading this are realising your that girl that if he offers to do things like tying your shoe, paying for your nails or even washing the dishes you will say 'nah it's alright i will do it' because you can. Without realizing that the real reason they offered isn't because you can't do it, it's because they want to do it.

You telling them that you can do it 24/7 just makes them feel completely worthless. It'll also make them reluctant to offer again and when you notice that they've stopped offering it'll be a problem. It'll become 'Well why do i have to do everything' or ' Why doesn't he do anything for me'. because you set it up that way. I mean if it were you and you kept being told no every time you offered, how long would you keep offering for? 

Once the offering is gone you'll be fighting to get them back. One piece of advice girl, just accept it from the get, let him know where he stands and stop taking away the whole point of him being your boyfriend. I understand it can be unintentional I do it ALLL the time, however i'm learning that the more I do it the more my boyfriend thinks well why am I actually here? If she can do it all what does she need me for? He knows your independent and you know that you may not need is help but sometimes just pretend! As we all know boys can be rubbish at emotions and for a few of them doing things for you is their way of showing their Affection so who are you to take that away? 

But why don't we like you helping out? Because boys, you like your Ego stroked too much. I mean if you've paid for your girl trainers and shes looking banging in them bussin up the compliments. Let her say proudly that her man bought them for her. Parading round saying 'yeah do you like her trainers? I bought them' or 'they're buff innit, i got them' is unnecessary!  Even if you paid for her hair or her nails to be done you don't need to tell everyone that comments on them how much you paid for them or the fact that you even paid for them. I mean I understand that your feeling kinda proud but doing things like that is one of the reasons we don't want you to do it in the first place! Why would I let you do it if you're going to tell the world that you done it and make it seem like i couldn't do it, if i can do it myself and be content on the inside knowing i did it?

On a serious note boys you actually do have a purpose. Women prove their independence for many different reasons. Some may be because she wants to let you know that she aint dependent on you. Yes she has you there but if you wanna mess around and leave, it aint like she has to have you there to help her get through life because she can do it on her own #Trustissues. Some girls it's for a booster, I mean we have egos that need maintaining too ya'noe. Then some girls are just serious feminists and need to maintain the fact that we(as women) fought long and hard for this independence and need to keep reminding themselves that. 

Moral of the Blog:

For the ladies: Sometimes pretend to bruk your foot so you can ask him to do your shoelace LOL. Be scared of lightning and thunder so he can give you extra cuddles and feel like a man. Or the light bulb that you can change with your eyes closed? Ask him to do it give him his manly purpose. He needs to feel like you need him/he's wanted. don't push him to seek it elsewhere.

For the men: If you kill that spider for her, don't go screaming that you killed it and she couldn't. Don't make her feel inferior so you can be superior. Just chill and she'll chill with you.

It's all about the understanding.

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