How I found my MR Right.

The friend-zone.. are you familiar? Have you been someone trapped in it or know someone who is? If you do let them know there is hope!

Everyone always looks at me and my boyfriend and asks 'how did you meet' and "I say we were bestfriends for 5 years and then we got together" then i get 'Aww relationship goals', or 'Aww you're soo cute' not knowing the effort that I .. YES THE FEMALE, went through to get us here. 

This is a tale of how I actually met my boyfriend .. and yes it started with the beloved friend-zone and no it wasn't him who was in it.

Girls can be friend-zoned too.

It started in 2010 that beautiful summer. I had officially completed year 7 and was on my way to being bigger and badder! ..Well just not being the youngest in the school anymore which at that time meant everything. 

It was one of those hot summers days, where it's too hot for you to even think about leaving your house. I was in my room texting on my blackberry (you remember those days, putting all your contacts into certain categories, Status saying 'Slee-DONT-ping' and all the rest of it.. The good'ol days). Anyways I was Pinging my best friend to wake her up and I got a BC (Broadcast) from a friend. The broadcast read:

 " Add up my bro Reece, Pin ******, 

Light skinned, Funny and gives quick replies.

Add up Add up"

At a time when you don't have many contacts and you get a broadcast like that the best thing to do is add them. Firstly because it's an opportunity to make more friends, Secondly because I like light-skinned men. So upon that broadcast, I added him straight away. While I sat there and waited for him to accept I checked all the status updates to see who was throwing shade that early in the day. Then I saw 'Reece accepted your request' BOOM new contact! The first thing that went through my mind was ' Check his photo is he buff?'. * Checks the Photo" ... JACKPOT he's beautiful. I clicked on his status and it read' NITM DONT PING ME' straight away I thought: Well that's not exactly what you usually have on your status when your being BC'd you're supposed to seem at least a little bit happy... Maybe it's not his day. Either way due to his status I thought it was best not to pop up now as he may actually just delete me and to be honest I didn't want that when you've just made a gorgeous new contact.. Lashaan lay low.

It got to about 9pm and his status changed from 'NITM' to ' '. Then i thought you know what, what do you have to lose, pop up and see if he is OK. So i popped up. 

" Hi "

"yo"

" are you okay? "

"yh u?"

"yeah I'm fine, just thought I'd check up on you considering you've been angry all day"

" nah, I'm gd"

" You sure, I'm here to talk if you want?"

" nah, I'm gd"

" you sure?"

" Well actually no I ain't..."

And that's where it started our first ever conversation. He proceeded to tell me about his current girlfriend (who I knew of)  and how she had cheated on him with his good friend whilst he went away with his mum. He also told me about how much he wanted her and how badly she had been messing with his mind but also how much he cared for her and wanted it to work. 3 hours we conversated about this girl and at the end, I gave him a conclusion and a way to make it work and from that moment forward I KNEW he was my soulmate... from a distance. I'm not the home-wrecking type so it had to be from a distance.

From then on we spoke almost every single day and every time they argued it was me he came to asking for advice to 'squash the beef' and the conversation always started with "I really love her .. but." And I just knew that for me there’d be no chance. After a while, she realized who he was getting his advice from and she decided to come to me too, so I literally was piggy in the middle. I knew his problems with her, I knew her problems with him and neither of them knew that I really just wanted him for myself. 

It wasn't easy being the piggy in the middle for a boy you felt like you were literally in love with. Now I look back on it I was a little stalkerish .. I used to purposely walk down his road to get to the shop just to see if I could spot him smoking out the window and give him a wave. I even used to walk with my girls down the high street to get chicken and chips (even though we had one right next to school) because he used to chill in a specific chicken shop to see if he were there. If he was sometimes I'd even be lucky enough to get a hug. (At that time, getting a hug, basically meant you were more than friends). Although it was crazy, it made me feel like there was still a little hope. 

In 2012 I had a dance performance in a park and just my luck me and his girl were both in the same dance group so he came to support. Watching them cuddle and kiss right in front of my eyes whilst having the both of them say ‘Thank you so much for helping us sort that argument out, we couldn’t have done it without you’ literally broke my heart. However, I kind of built a friendship out of it as me and the girl became close to the point we would eat lunch together and text regularly. She invited me out to a festival in our area and made it seem like it was a girls day, but nope. HE WAS THERE. More kissing and cuddling and play fighting and all I had in my heart was pure jealousy as I wanted nothing more than for it to be me.

But one day in 2013 they had an argument. An argument soo big not even I could save. She cheated once again and they broke up. Now if you've made it this far you'll be thinking 'Yaas girl, here's your chance, you should be happy' But I wasn't. He fell into such a dark hole that no-one could shine him a light and that boy that called me 'best friend' had gone. He became angrier, more distressed made stupid decisions and constantly got into trouble. As his closest female friend, it wasn't nice to see as when he was having his down days it was me who got to hear how he was truly feeling. After months of him getting worse and then slowly getting better, I felt it was time to reveal my love.

" lol okay, I sorta have something to say"

" whats up?"

" I kinda like you"

" So do I, sis."

SIS... SIS..... FLIPPING SIS? #FriendzoneX1000. I mean I had already been friend zoned a million times and now it's actually been made official. Are you for'real? 

It was officially time to find some new meat. I had a black boy for a few months while Reece went out with a latino. At this point, I had boys LITERALLY tying my shoelace. Beautiful black boys offering to take me out but all I could think about was this mix-raced lover. Then we both broke up with our partners and he we were again talking to each other everyday, on the phone every now and then, voice notes and in each other's statuses all the time. things were actually looking up. However, all was ruined when he got with this other latino girl and I realized it was officially time to move on. I had been wasting my time still chilling in the friend zone. it was 2014. It had been 4 whole years and no improvement except being ranked up from the friend to the best friend. Honestly, who stays that long?

I distanced away in early 2015 and we didn't speak for a good few months. Moreover one day I thought I'd just check and see if he was alive, to which he was. He explained that his phone had been stolen and he lost all his contacts so he was happy I'd texted him. ( Happy? hmm. ) If I'm totally honest it was lovely to have him back again. That good morning & goodnight text every day along with the morning, noon and night banter it literally was everything I wanted in a boyfriend but ... he was only a friend.

& THEN on DECEMBER 6th 2015 It finally happened. More than 5 YEARS in the friend zone I finally got what I had wanted since 2010. He asked me out. I mean It wasn't exactly the typical type of asking out and as proof, you can see for yourself!

( Order to read: Left, Right Bottom)

I know, it's cheesy as hell but that's the way I got my boyfriend and it's a way I'll never forget. Now it's been a whole 2 years and were still going strong ( it could have been like 5 years but ya'noe, he didn't realise the fate like I did LOL). I mean, maybe he didn't realise because he wasn't ready for me, maybe the world hadn't marinated him enough for me to come and cook him. I guess you could say he's an aging wine aha!So although our anniversary is tomorrow, This Tuesday post is dedicated to us baby, I love you always.Also for those who made it this far through my love story, I just want to point 2 things out.1. It IS possible for a girl to be friend zoned.2. It IS possible to escape the FRIEND-ZONE!

If I can do it.. anyone can do it.

Until next time guys.

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