Relationships: Communication

Shaan Wray
Jan 13, 2019
3 min read

Hey you,

So this topic is about communication: it's how we talk to each other. Its that one word that implicates 'you need to talk more'. it was important at home, it was important at school and it's most definitely important during a relationship! This is my personal struggle area and i hope talking about it will help shed some understanding for everyone out here. If i'm honest for me compromising is a piece of cake compared to this.

I believe communication is the acronym for ' How do I know if you don't tell me'. in short it's true, no-one out here is a mind reader! In any relationship (partners, friends, family ,work) the communication tree comes with many branches; When do I communicate and when do I shush?how do I communicate this? whats the real point i'm trying to get across? is it worth it? and so on. It's not an easy thing to do and many relationships fail because of a lack of it, which is why my friends, it's N0.2 on my list

So, when does it come in to play? 24/7. Asking for a remote or a drink is communication. However when does it matter most in a relationship. i'll tell you.

Irritating things:

You've noticed that they keep leaving toast crumbs in your butter, Or they constantly leave rubbish lying around, or they always sit in their outside coat... inside. Tell them. I'm telling you now, those little things are minor if you tell them the first few times it happens. Moreover if you get rid of the crumbs, pick up the rubbish and let them speak over you without saying anything it will brew. Then when it brews and brews the problem that could have been a simple conversation is now an argument and brewing is unhealthy for the soul. Now you've been doing these things for so long without letting them know it's irritating you and they wont stop. Why would they stop? you didn't tell them. I'm not even going to lie i'm that girl where i'd see you do that irritating thing and not say anything for ages but in my head i'm like 'Do it again and me and you gonna fight'. Then he does it again and i'm vex. The FIRST thing he says is ' Well why didn't you tell me before if it's been irritating you this long' because you should just know by my body language that it's annoying me. LOL Guys i'm telling you all that is going to do is cause an explosion that could have been AVOIDED. Like i'm learning now say it when you see it not when you've seen it!

There are plenty of other times/scenarios when you need to communicate. Especially the ladies, It's actually okay to communicate and ask for help. You're no less of an independent woman if you do so and your no less strong either! But when do you know when you should just keep quiet? Sometimes if you know that saying something is going to cause a bigger problem than keeping quiet, keep quiet. If they're going through other stuff personally .. keep quiet. The point of communicating is to make sure nothing is left unsaid, you're on the same page and it's easier on you both. So don't do it if it's going to make it worse!

The bottom line is communication is key for a lot of things and they really won't know until you tell them. The importance of communication ties in to everyday life and is a skill that a lot of people still have not mastered just yet. It is the secondary foundation to any relationship.